Mr. Ex-Fiance'

So after the tear streaked "break-up" with Ron I went back to the drawing board. I am completely a computer moron. Those books they write for dummies should have my picture on the cover. Believe it or not I made it the whole way to 2006 without ever hearing of MYSPACE or FACEBOOK. So as a way to try and reconnect with old friends my best friend Kathleen created a myspace page for me. While poking around and searching for random people from my past I decided to look for my fiance' from college. (Apparently the Ron incident had taught me nothing.) After a lot of indecision I sent Micky and email. I wasn't sure if he would be happy to hear from me or not. I didn't know if he was married or had children because he had his page was set to private. Almost immediately he answered and we started talking via phone and the Internet. He had been married and divorced twice and he still wasn't a father. He was now a State Trooper in Indiana where we attended college. Without much persuading I agreed to come and visit him for a few days. This was no easy feat considering that my ex-husband still viewed me in many ways as his property and full-time babysitter. Somehow though I managed to get a babysitter and a plane ticket. Things were looking up. Micky and I were talking about taking things slow, but it seemed we were going to pick things up where they had fallen apart 8 years before. Then all of a sudden he stopped answering his phone. Finally he sent me a message on myspace. Apparently over NYE he had a met a girl and decided that instead of playing both of us that he wanted to see her. From later conversations I believe that this was because she was more geographically desirable. Well thank God had it didn't fly to Indiana because a few months later he called and told me that he hated her, but she was pregnant with their first child. What a dog! So I lost my plane ticket money, but at least my dignity was preserved.

Mr. I used to work with when I was a teenager

When I was newly single I started talking to an old friend via cell phone. It started quite casually but quickly became an everyday occurrence. Because I would rather not name names we will call him Ron. Ron and I had worked together as at the beach as teenagers. One summer he had even kissed me. The attraction was definitely there even though I hadn't seen him in 10 or 11 years. He made me laugh and at the time I really needed to laugh. So one Sunday I decided to drive the two hours to visit him. But I wasn't invited and I was too much of a silly girl to ask if we could get together so I told him that I was going to buy a birthday gift for a friend from Ikea and low and behold the closest Ikea just happened to be near him. So we left it with maybe we could get a drink after I picked up the gift. Well the drink which ended up being quite a few beers for him and a Pepsi for me went well. I met him at a bar in the area where he was watching the Eagles game with friends. The bar was loud and we really couldn't talk, but after the game he invited me to come and see the home that he had bought. We got there and he showed me around and there was a lot of built up tension. And I thought oh no I've made a huge mistake he really doesn't like me after all. So I tell him well Ron I'm sorry, but it's already very dark and I have to be starting my two hour drive home now. And in true Ron-style he says wait before you leave there is something that I want to show you. So Ron and I walked outside the house and he takes me down this little path that runs beside his back yard. In less than 30 seconds we go from being in a neighborhood to standing in a beautiful park with a wide view of the starry sky. And then he kissed me. IT was amazing. I guess I'll never really be able to explain how it felt. I hadn't had a first kiss in over 7 years. Needless to say I was a little late getting home, but my children were safe and sound with their Aunt so it wasn't a big deal. We all know that this fairy tale did not have a happy ending or I wouldn't be blogging today. After a couple months of dating I was informed that we were not actually dating. Imagine my surprise after commuting two hours every other weekend to see Ron that we were in fact just hanging out and that the affection that we had shared was just hormones!

Let the fun begin!

So after 7 years of marriage and two years of divorce I find that I have many interesting stories to tell. Some are funny, some are sad and some just leave me thinking what the heck. Anyway after telling my stories to friends and the occasional co-worker I decided that it might be nice to document this journey. My best friend has a wonderful blog and I thought that instead of the countless phone calls where I am forced to recapture every embarrassing moment that it might save time to just put it on the Internet for the whole world to read. My plan is to recap the men that I've dated since the split and then post stories from everyday life and the search for Mr. Right and should I ever find him then I guess the happy news would be shared here as well! Happy reading:)